Self-care is a skill that can help us with the unfamiliar concept of learning to connect with ourselves when our instincts tell us to connect with others. I would like to share three simple ways to take care of yourself throughout this quarantine. Remember to be patient and mindful with yourself throughout this process, these are trying times and you deserve to give yourself some attention. A professor once told me that “nothing will change if nothing changes”. It seems obvious but we often expect change when have done nothing to see that change happen. If you are struggling throughout this time and want to be doing better, you have to create that change yourself, otherwise things will simply stay the same.
The first practice is movement. Our bodies are meant to move! Running, jumping, dancing, yoga; when we move we create endorphins which help us sleep and send positive feelings throughout our bodies. Make sure it is something that you enjoy, and take a moment to focus on moving your body. Try to focus only on your movement during this time, set other distractions aside and pay attention to your body.
Second are moments of stillness in silence. Although we are by ourselves most of these days, we may not be fully taking advantage of the importance of moments in silence. The average person experiences about 60,000 thoughts per day and for some, 80% of those thoughts are negative. Practicing a moment of stillness in silence brings awareness to that internal voice. The moment we have awareness we can begin to choose which thoughts to hold onto and which to let go of. This will be difficult at first, but have patience with yourself. Begin by sitting still in a place that is most comfortable for you, this will be different for everyone. In these moments, be mindful of where your attention lies. What do you hear? What do you see? How are you feeling? How is your heart? How is your mind? If you are not sure where to start, try thinking through the things you are grateful for in these times of isolation.
The last self-care practice is time in nature. According to environmental psychology, time in nature will improve your mood, reduce stress and improve cognitive function. During this time, even a short walk can bring clarity in isolation. Sitting outside to eat, work, paint, sew, whatever brings you joy, try it outside next time!
For each practice, movement, moments of stillness in silence and time in nature, start with just 10 minutes a day. If you can’t spare 30 minutes of your day practicing some self-care I think it’s time to reevaluate your day. Lastly, don’t forget to breathe! Inhale for four seconds. Hold for four seconds. Exhale for four seconds. And again.
- Rachel L.